I was reflecting on being Mr. Mom for the past six months and thought I should jot down a few lessons learned. What I came up with is more of a “life with two little boys” collage but it does give a bit of insight into the magic of learning. We’ve shared most of these before in another media form but never really pondered their significance in the growing up process. Until now that is…..
On Responsibility:
Mommy’s first day back at work and I have done two loads of laundry, washed the dishes, fed the lads, cleaned the kitchen, had my coffee, and it’s just 9:00am. Whew! This is going to be a good day………. 9:02 am I LOST THE BOYS!!!! (they worked together to open the gate and “went for a walk.”) AHHHHH!!!
Michael’s walking!!!! He took 20 steps with no hesitation. Wow! What a beginning. Tim’s life will never be the same again. If he thought he was tired before then look out!
After getting his diaper changed in a public bathroom, Benjamin saw a perfect stranger coming out of a stall, he looked at her, and said “wash your hands after toilet use, wash with soap and water” (all in an Australian accent).
A realization… life with a one and two-year old redefines the term “sleeping in” to going to bed at 7pm and then getting 11 hours of sleep before you’re “greeted” at 6am by human alarm clocks.
Mommy can you wash my bum?
*** The classroom had its own joys, but these joys are indescribable. What a long strange trip it’s been. (and I wouldn’t want it any other way)
On Adaptability:
Question: How do you wash dishes when you don’t have water in the kitchen? Answer: Use the bathtub.
While swinging a stick at a bush, “machete, machete, machete!” says Benjamin. Guess he’s adapting to his surroundings…
Benjamin, time to pick out a book. “How about I pick my nose.” Hmmm…
Benjamin what do you think about having a dog as a pet? Would you like that? “How about a pig instead. No. A horse. How about a horse?”
*** I think the bargaining culture has definitely influenced Benjamin. My wife uses Michael to get better bargains while shopping at the local market while Benjamin and I are banished to no-man’s land. I guess the cute factor is still in play for the little guy. Apparently Benjamin and I have lost our appeal. Knowing the culture helps you adapt.
On Relationships:
So Benjamin called a girl and invited her over to play for the first time today, oh [parents cracking up here] – Stacey (elementary principal at WNS), you’re quite the trooper! Alli, sorry he only wanted Stacey to come… maybe next time???
AHHHHH YOU’RE MY RHINO RAFIKI!!!!!!!!!! I can’t believe I didn’t have you on my suspect list! And ALL ALONG it was YOU!!!! Seriously. [insert light bulb moment here]
PS: are you my rhino rafiki?
If only you were 14 hours BEHIND instead of 14 hours ahead…then these wouldn’t be belated birthday wishes. I think you guys should move to a new time zone soon. But, happy birthday anyway!
*** When you care about someone let them know right away. As an aside: I love you Mom. Also, you shouldn’t make your friends (rafiki) wonder if they really are your friends. Communication is key.
On Wonder:
Look Pops! I bit my pretzel and made a letter C. Now I made a letter A. What is it now Pops?
Baboons, monkey, giraffe, zebra, storks, gazelles, impalas, eland, hartebeest, LIONS, BUFFALO, RHINOS, HIPPO, and so many more – what a morning! — at Nairobi National Park.
How many bites does it take a one year old to devour a cake? Michael will show you how it’s done! Happy 1st birthday, little MAN 🙂 It took him two bites and was over before the camera could focus.
There was the most prehistoric looking winged creature on our balcony railing this morning. we thought the boys would scare it away, but when it saw them looking through the window it actually came closer – perhaps it was looking for a snack… yikes!
Michael finally started babbling this past week – it’s soooooo fun to hear him chatter away and giggle at things.
After 12 years of teaching together we are finally living in a country that speaks English. Who knew we had to move to Africa to do so?
Here Pops this is for you. (I was handed a stick) Michael observed and handed me an imaginary stick.
Look Pops! Michael and I are dancing. (They’re running around in circles flapping their arms much like an albatross that is having trouble taking off, then flopping down on the ground like dying fish only to pop back up again to continue their circular flapping.)
*** Sometimes I think we lose sight of the magical moments of/in living. God’s creation is absolutely marvelous, no matter where you live, and the creation of two little boys, and their discovery process, is humbling. Slowing down to notice it is the trick. I think I should quit typing and join the dance.
On Philosophy:
Neither one of us gets it… how is it that a certain two-year-old of ours can work on a puzzle with so much determination, only to start tearing it apart SECONDS after finishing?!?!?
*** It’s all about the journey.
I’m not buddy. Buddy is the dog. My name is Benjamin.
*** Know who you are.
On Attitude:
So two firsts… first Christmas concert last night where there were guys patrolling the church with AK47s & first baboon (did I mention it was 5 feet tall?) on a campus while I’ve been teaching – never a dull moment around here!
I’ve been a teacher long enough to know that look. It says, “I don’t care what you say. I’m doing it my way.” Ahhh Michael, you may not speak yet but your expression says it all.
This past week included: termites, birds eating termites, bees, baboons, camels, lions, monkeys, and potty training beginnings (yup, pretty sure that last one belongs in the list). Dare we ask what next week will bring?
We currently have fermented milk straining through a tea towel into a bowl in our fridge – can’t wait for dinner tomorrow!
Our 15 minute drive home from school took us almost three hours. I counted 5 broken down vehicles and 2 accidents, a plethora of wandering animals, and way too many police for my comfort. Ahhh, just another day of driving in Nairobi. You never know what’s going to happen. Everyday is an adventure.